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CAFE TAC Self-Care while Working Discussion - Shared screen with speaker view
Misako
20:10
Strategy of intentional, built-in breaks as a daily scheduled priority. For me, taking mini-breaks of 5-10 mins., in addition to a lunch break, is essential & very-helpful to contain/curtail/prevent my bipolar hypomania.
Etsegenet M Teodros
20:13
What helps me is planning it out ahead and getting actions and intentions noted. And yes walking away.
John Ferrone
20:55
I make lists, too, so that I can let go of the anxiety related to the idea of forgetting things, or losing track of ideas, etc.
Robin Zucker
25:21
Good stuff Misako!
Etsegenet M Teodros
25:54
Its harder being remote and when I had actual times I needed quiet and space. Concentration and participation with engagement was such a challenge. So now if I can avoid that I do. But speaking up is easier.
John Ferrone
26:35
I think the main challenge for any employee who is a Peer in particular is to understand where there is flexibility, and where there is not, in the workspace. Some things you'll have to adapt to, and other things you'll be able to shape. If you can assess that early on, you position yourself to find the best combination of variables. So, are "you" good at assessing your workspace situation from this perspective? Do you know yourself well enough such that you can adapt to what is rigid, while creating the customizations that you need?
Etsegenet M Teodros
28:00
That is easier in an office work space or setting.
Misako
28:23
General, ongoing, mindful humor & genuine interaction w/co-workers also helps me stay grounded. And also signals to me my system-state.Key, for me, is mindfulness, intention, self-awareness.
Etsegenet M Teodros
33:08
Walk breaks with my dog makes me be alert to breaks but if I don't its because I'm trying to push myself.
John Ferrone
34:03
When I am flatlined, I say, "I should should more." But I do't
John Ferrone
34:05
don't
Misako
34:07
"I should not should"? haha
Etsegenet M Teodros
34:24
And the bad weather was distracting.
Etsegenet M Teodros
34:34
CA
Elise Padilla
38:10
Resilience is important, especially in flexibility. Resilience is made up of five pillars: Self Awareness, Mindfulness, Self Care, Positive Relationships and Purpose.
Misako
39:28
John's "I should do more" thinking re: a "flatline" state. Falling behind in my tasks, even at home, because of my mh condition, causes me to feel guilty & feel even more overwhelmed -- which reinforces my flatline state. Ugh!So, I consciously remind myself to be self-compassionate & pro-actively accept my (temporary) state.
Etsegenet M Teodros
41:00
Misako I think that those challenges affect so many of us. Being kind to yourself is so important.
John Ferrone
44:43
From now on, Loran, I will text you at 10am to ask if you've done the dishes : )
Jeremy - CAFE TAC
45:21
When you are self-employed or working on your own, it can be hard to find the balance between motivating yourself and "should"-ing yourself.
Misako
45:31
John to Loran: lol
Jeremy - CAFE TAC
45:58
I think everyone has to find the right balance and way to motivate themselves in a positive way.
John Ferrone
46:01
Virtual cocktail/mocktail meetings are fun and seem to make the virtual contact more human
Misako
48:41
Jeremy: I agree about that inner conflict when working in isolation, at home, especially!
Etsegenet M Teodros
48:48
I agree with all.
John Ferrone
50:08
Inner conflict grows in power when you don't choose to implement self care... kind of what Robin is getting at, I think, when she said she recognized that she wasn't practicing self care
John Ferrone
52:34
Major Charles Emerson Winchester.., " I do one thing at a time, I do it well, and then I move on."
Jeremy - CAFE TAC
52:48
Easier said than done!
Etsegenet M Teodros
54:17
Visual things and setting up working space helps and provides me balance.
John Ferrone
54:44
Multi-tasking... I think that's been a misconstrued concept. For example, I know I can't do multiple things at the same time and do them well... but, I do have multiple things in process concurrently. Learning to juggle is a metaphor I prefer. We all juggle many things, and learning to focus on the one that needs focus while the others wait for their moment is a good way to think of "multi-tasking".
Jeremy - CAFE TAC
55:28
Yeah that's important Etsegenet. Your visual space is something you can control, and making it look the way you want is a grounding thing that you can control.
Etsegenet M Teodros
57:02
When at home juggling and multitasking is also things that need to be done around. But not be a responsibility just because.
John Ferrone
57:59
Misako... "managing upward" is a concept that I like to encourage people to consider. It's similar to self-advocacy. But basically it's all about helping the person above you look good. So, you might say to your boss, "I am a great stocker... when I have a consistent schedule. But a fluctuating schedule really cuts into my productivity because I have to spend time adjusting. If you are able to keep me in a consistent schedule, my higher productivity will be beneficial to the store."
Misako
01:01:06
I have to map-out & as write down my routine & agenda, including making adjustments as needed when my symptoms act up.I also find tracking my daily wins, & where & how I can make small, self-compassionate changes. And other mh peers, including in a peer support group, often have tips, too, that I might try.
Elise Padilla
01:01:49
An accommodation I once requested was a day without meetings. I asked for one consistent day to just get the “work” done. My supervisor, who was not focused on wellness denied the request and surprise, I burnt out. My next supervisor accepted the accommodation and gave the whole team Fridays as a meeting free day. It was well received and very helpful.
John Ferrone
01:02:37
Nice, Elise! I need to talk to my boss about that.
Jeremy - CAFE TAC
01:03:17
That's funny
Jeremy - CAFE TAC
01:03:43
Elise, because I try to have one blank day on my calendar every week too.
Misako
01:04:51
John: aren't u ur own boss? Or do u mean the project-client who's contracted u? Sorry, I missed Elise's comment (phone-signal drop).
Misako
01:06:30
EFT: Emotional Freedom Technique to help self-ground & center.
Etsegenet M Teodros
01:08:21
I feel the same in bigger virtual platforms and events. But I have to remind myself, I am there for what I bring to the table, and I should do better acknowledging that.
Elise Padilla
01:08:27
Time sure flies, thank you all!!
John Ferrone
01:08:28
I was joking... need to request it of myself
Etsegenet M Teodros
01:09:25
Thank you!
Loran Harris
01:09:34
Thank you
Misako
01:09:37
John: I thought so. Gone one! lol
Robin Zucker
01:09:44
Thanks you!