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Settlement in Practice: Family and Domestic Violence - Shared screen with speaker view
Sandra Wright
Hi All - please feel welcome to ask your own questions in the Q&A box and the chat box, and to put your own reflections down based on your own experiences
Simon Angok
Simon Angok
Is there train a trainer component of the training?
Sarah Desmond
Apologies if this is already known; Are you working with men while they are still living with victim/survivors? Or only who are living separately?
Rukiye Apaydin
Hi everyone, I am from Townsville Multicultural Support Group/TMSG. I think the main challenge is that CALD communities haven't been given enough information about the legal system and there is no friendly engagement to make men from CALD background understand. So, whenever, there are referred to men's behaviour change program they feel that they are being mistreated and disrespected. However, for those who accept, it's hard to get competent interpreters to assist especially face to face or video interpreting. I know someone who dropped out of the program because there was no an interpreter.
Mary Hilmi
I believe that it is important that we start with early intervention not just a reactive approach. A lot of men in CALD communities need education on changed environment and laws. Need to develop a mentor program from early settled men to support newly arrived
Mary Hilmi
I also believe that religious leaders are a problem in them selves. Some of them focus on reuniting families more than safety and education and changed behaviour
Melissa Lyon
Are there any examples of community elders engaging with organizations to mobilize / motivate men who use violence in their communities to attend behave change groups, similar to what has and is occurring in some indigenous communities around the country?
Anouska Nelson
if you had the opportunity to work with a specific ethnic men's group, and support conversations that foster respectful relationships - what skills or education would you focus on imparting? (early intervention)
Gary Thornell
excellent comments
Rigzin Yuthok
Thanks to all but it would have been good to have a male guest speaker who specialize and has experience working with men with behaviour problems to get their input too.
Hala Abdelnour
anger management implies that anger is the reason to use the violence and it denies the fact that anger is not the reason that violence is used
Sandra Wright
Hi Rigzin - we tried very hard to get a male who specialises in this area, and the few we contacted were not available. I think it is a by product of the issue that was discussed earlier, that we need many more individuals who have the skills and expertise in this area
Adelite Nyamhanga
Its not culture as there are so many men who come from CALD backgrounds that are not abusive.
Hala Abdelnour
anger can be a part of it, however, it's often not there at all - the underpinning forces of control and power over another person do not require anger - they require someone who believes that they have the right to control the finances and all decision making and will take it upon themselves to do that - if the "rules" they put in place in their home are broken, then they might resort to anger. The issue begins with the person seeking power and control over their family members. This does not come from anger.
Sagar Sun
I think it is also about their socio-economic status.
Rigzin Yuthok
Ask a man why they are violent towards their partner they often say they are angry.Now, How will it attract participants who are angry to attend a training called ‘Men’s Behaviour Problem’. Strong language might be helpful to get funding from government but to attract a fellow human being to join a program to minimize the harm the title of the program should emphasize the purpose.
Nayif Rasho
Why some culture are doing this training and having someone working with and others are missing and have a zero knowledge about it. for example I am from CALD community and we have a big community here in Australia and even we don't have in language.
Indira Haracic-Novic
Excellent discussion, thank you!!Counsellors at STARTTS have recently published the book Toxic Love: Breaking the addictive patterns of domestic abuse. (https://www.amazon.com.au/Toxic-Love-Breaking-Addictive-Patterns-ebook/dp/B08YCYNWLN ). The info in the book could be of help.
Rigzin Yuthok
Hi Sandra,Thanks for your explanation.I personally find it helpful to listen to specialized active frontline workers.
Adelite Nyamhanga
Can we access the link after the live is finished and watch as a recording
Sandra Wright
Yes, we will make the recording available - however my apologies, we missed the introductory remarks in the recording!
Rigzin Yuthok
Thanks Indira
Indira Haracic-Novic
Rigzin, I can send you the book. My email: Indira_novic@yahoo.com
Indira Haracic-Novic
Natalie Wallace
I am curious what the next steps are from here? How and where are these issues etc. being raised and with who? What is needed from the sector?
Anouska Nelson
how do we access the scoa training on working with men?
Asha Saleh
Hi All,I would like to comment that sometimes using facilitator from the same culture can be problemtic becuase participants will not open up due to shame and fear of the community hearing about it
Asha Saleh
Asha from Jesuit Social Services-settlement program
Wendy Lobwein
Thank you very much Hala, Fatima, Astrid, Nick and Sandra for such a valuable session! I am encouraged here in Melbourne by young women and men from diverse CALD communities, working together for their own individual linguistic/cultural groups and across multiple CALD groups, and for our whole diverse community in pushing for attitude change toward gender equality. I support the need for resources, training and support to them. Wendy from AMES Australia
Sana Hassan
Excellent discussion on a very challenging role. your insights are valuable and appreciated.